HOW TO HANDLE DISAGREEMENTS in Marriage
I Peter 3:1-7
1Pe 3:1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
1Pe 3:2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
1Pe 3:3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
1Pe 3:4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
1Pe 3:5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
1Pe 3:6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
1Pe 3:7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.
Luk 17:3 Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.
Luk 17:4 And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him.
* Two human beings together in a life-long marriage cannot expect to have 100% agreement
at the time. Disagreements will come.
* Some people scream at each other, some throw things, some destroy things, some punch the
wall, some just want to get out of the house and get away, some just want to have a good fight.
WHAT TO DO WHEN DISAGREEMENTS COME?
1- Realize you are friends and that you chose each other for life.
• You are husband and wife, you are not enemies. You are on the same side.
2 No argument is worth destroying your marriage over.
• Remember in your marriage you are not trying to win an argument but build a good marriage.
3- Sleep on the problem.
• No matter what the problem is, many times a good nights rest will cause both of you see it different.
• It is amazing how much closer a couple will be in the morning.
• A lot of the anger is gone the next morning.
4 Don’t discuss controversial matters late at night.
• Make an agreement not to discuss major problems after 8:00 p.m.
• It is never good to end the day with problems between you and your mate.
5- Do not bring up a problem as soon as your mate gets home. A good kiss is a lot better than a good fight.
6- Don’t believe any words spoken in anger.
• Wife may say:
You never show you love me. You never fix anything around the house. You
never care for your family. I am going to leave you.
• Husband will say:
You always nag. You are just like your mother. You are always bossing others. 1 should of never married you.
• Do not think about what your mate said in anger, they only said it to try to hurt you.
7 Decide not to bring up certain topics.
• Never use the word divorce.
• Never bring up the intimate marital relationship. The act of physical love is sacred.
8- Have some rules you follow. Hebrews 13:4
• We will never criticize each other’s families.
• We will not fight in front of the children.
9- Enjoy making up.
• Making up is the best part of having an argument.
• The battlefield should be kept out of the bedroom.
10- A couple must discuss the difficulty.
• Talk through the problems. We must learn to communicate.
